*This post is authored by a man and from a males point of view*
There’s a common notion that irks me, because I know a lot better than to ever believe it to even be partially true. When a relationship goes sour because the other person is dealing with another person,11 out of 10 times, the first and second glance will be towards the man. There’s a belief that women are unfailingly loyal, and that men are essentially capable of spinning their heads at every women around them in a style that even the little chick from the Exorcist would have to appreciate. It’s one of those developed and expected social norms that have become an unfortunately true default.
I’ll admit many of the issues I’ve seen and heard of in life have been because of a man doing something he knows is out of pocket. There’s a great many habitual line steppers that have created a Two-Faced man. Two-Face is seen as existing for every man, regardless of what he truly is. It’s always allegedly lurking, waiting to emerge. But that twisted part of it is, it can be a far more effective identity for a woman to put to use, because everybody is paying attention to the other half way more. Stealth will always have a better chance of walking away after an attack. If nobody sees it coming, it’s way too late to stop it once it’s in play.
Here’s an unfortunate scenario that I came across recently. Travel a few years back. Long-time guy about town meets his ideal, settles in. Likes girl, deals only with girl, marries girl. All is seemingly well. Time goes by, and girl gets unsettled…
Now STOP. *Cues Dramatic Zack Morris pause*
This is where things may get hazy. The common notion is that women hit the finish line when they meet THEE guy, get THEE ring and then get THEE title, and all the property that comes with it. This would also be known as the greatest generally accepted lie in common society. Women are creatures of progress; it is what makes them so dynamic in life and what makes them the absolute most evolutionary creatures ever created. Women go for theirs harder, and with less conflict than anything else. For better or worse, til death do them part…from this Earth. It is simultaneously the best and worst thing about them. Never think otherwise.
*End pause…*
Aforementioned, recently unsettled girl goes on trip with friends. She meets a lad that is new, and one that doesn’t have her recently acquired new last name. She keeps contact with new guy, even after she returns home. Her husband goes on a trip to visit his family, and she timely opts out of the visit. Instead, she says she wants to use this time to go see a friend. This friend ends up blowing her brains out and knocking her cool back. While this cool is gone, she doesn’t answer any of her husband’s calls and can’t even give a straight answer back. The truth doesn’t need to be pulled out of her; it opens the door and walks out mid-conversation, with its hands up. The gig is up, the dance is over & the marriage is done.
The blame can be assessed anywhere here. The absolute is that she was wrong and ruined her life willingly. Blame can also be assessed to the husband, who perhaps didn’t keep the world fresh for the ever evolving nature of the woman. Perhaps the woman never told the truth in the first place, as it was also soon revealed that she had a penchant for women as well as extra men. The possibilities are endless, and truthfully, irrelevant to the point here.
The point of this tale is not to say that all of anything is a “dog” or to even say that women “are just as bad as men” (a highly assumptive and damning theory that shoots both sexes in the foot for believing any part of it to be right). It’s not to say don’t trust people away from you. Trust is beautiful, and when rightly placed it’s the best thing in the world. Refusing to give it is a lonely, insecure life that goes nowhere. What’s going to happen will happen, whether it works in your favor or no. The only point here is to highlight the fact that there are no absolutes. When assessing a characteristic to an individual, holding them to popular law of what they are by sexual association is a practice in stereotypes. And as this bit of story can easily show, the only way to be absolutely wrong 100% of the time, is believe a stereotype, because all of nothing behaves the same way, every time.
Gentlemen, I urge you to stay progressive with your woman. Do not settle in, because she is just as
capable of being what you allegedly are supposed to be: a hunter. Nobody wants to feel stagnant, nobody wants to be settled but stuck. The progressive forces of nature that are women are the absolute most resistant to this. They want to be persued, wanted, strived for, desired; constantly. The wonderful thing about them is the mostly, they can lock in on that, stay focused and pour all of that progression into sharing it with you.
But if it’s pulled away and they feel nothing…that’s when the search begins, and you may look into your lady’s eyes and be seeing the face that everybody expects you to be wearing on her. Not even know it.
-@CheapSeatFan
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